The past few days I've been trying to think of why I've been grouchy and not in the mood. Both towards my partner and everyone else. I came to the conclusion that it's the missing him that's causing me to act this way. I went online to try to get insight and possible get some comfort and this is what I found.
A person wrote:
My problem is after he comes down to see me, going back to my normal now boring life. I have a hard time saying goodbye and I am out of sorts for the next day or so. He says he is the same way although he is less emotional than I am.
I have never been in a long distance relationship and most of the time I feel stupid for my feelings of lonliness and frustration. He said he copes by trying not to think about it because it would drive him crazy. He said I shouldn't think so much about it either. He's right, it's not healthy. I just wish I knew someone else who has done this and how do they cope?
This persons question felt so connected to how I was feeling that I continued to read what answers may have been given.
An answer was this:
There are a few ways I cope, one of the biggest ones is going to the gym for a good work-out. Either that, or I go for a drive or a walk, or go and rent a movie. After some of our visits, all I really want to do is sleep to get rid of the emptiness of him not being here, but I have broken myself of that habit. Like you said, not healthy.
Do not feel stupid for feeling lonely or frustrated, you would not be human if you didn't feel that. Long distance is -by far- one of the hardest challenges I have come across yet. However, I know that my rewards will be waiting for me at the end, and I know that we are going to be together again soon. Communication is the one thing that will keep long distance running smoothly, but so many people don't understand that.
I think that you guys are lucky to see each other every weekend, even if it is only for a short time. But that doesn't change that it hurts when it's time to leave and if anything- I imagine it would make it harder. Basically, my best advice is to stick it out. Be grateful for the time that you get to spend with him every other weekend, and keep in mind that this is not forever. Although it is hard now, the time will come soon enough that you will be together again, all the time!
I know it's hard. I am going through the same thing, exactly. Be supportive, keep yourself busy and have lots of communication with each other. The time will pass before you know it, believe me.
Be gentle on yourself.
I'll follow this persons advise I know it won't be easy but I'll take it a day at a time and try to keep myself busy.
I Love You Baby! ^__^
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